Squirting: Your Sexual Superpower

“Squirting” or female ejaculation is one of the most misunderstood, taboo topics pertaining to female pleasure. Is it a myth? Can all women squirt? Is it just glorified urine? An innate curiosity propels these questions, making the phenomenon of the sexual act a hotly debated subject. 

First things first – what does squirting actually mean? Well, to put it bluntly, it’s merely a colloquialism to describe the expulsion of fluid from sexual stimulation. Yes, that’s right – women can cum too. According to The International Society for Sexual Medicine, between 10% to 50% of females can ejaculate, but simply aren’t aware of it. We are so used to men jerking off – it’s a widely accepted topic, one that has been elevated through the porn industry as a sex staple. So, if men can talk freely about “getting off”, why is the sensation of squirting so hush hush? 

Alongside the engrained double standards that dictate societal, sexual “norms”, there is an inherent feeling of shame associated with female orgasm. A combination of misconceptions and a lack of knowledge means that many women struggle to reach their sexual potential and be truly fulfilled. 

Aside from becoming more in tune with your wants and needs, regular masturbation provides you with a consistent fix of the feel-good hormone. At the point of sexual climax, both oxytocin and dopamine are released, alleviating stress, and reinforcing relaxation. As a fitness fanatic, I know all about craving that constant endorphin hit. In fact, when I am unwell or unable to exercise – self-care is my go-to mood-booster. But what if you’re in touch with your sexuality, and still struggling to hit that sweet spot? Well, not to worry – here is everything you need to know about squirting, cumming, and all the juicy in-betweens.  

Debunking Preconceptions 

Ignore what you’ve seen on PornHub, it’s unrealistic to think that every woman is gushing out waterfalls when they cum. For some, the emission of fluid might wet the bed completely (towels are advised), but for others, a mere trickle of ejaculation might occur. Whichever way your vulva wants to play it, be kind to yourself and accept your body’s ability to advocate pleasure.  

A key thing to remember is that getting “wet” is not the same as squirting. Vaginal lubrication is a crucial component for being aroused enough to cum, but it’s important to know the difference between the two. If you’re struggling to make yourself wet enough the natural way, then simply opt for lots of lubrication. There is a plethora of choice out there. So, do your research, organize a trip to a sex shop – either on your ones or with your beau, and get experimenting.  

Don’t Fake It – Accept It 

Many women end up “faking it” because they are afraid what will happen if they “let go” completely. Or they are simply not turned on enough to reach those orgasmic heights. The idea that penetration is the sole way to get there is a myth.  

For most people, the g-spot is your best friend when it comes to making yourself cum. A combination of clitoral and g-spot stimulation may well leave you feeling like you need to urinate – but that’s a good thing. Women’s bodies are incredibly sensitive and when you put pressure on that spot, using your fingers or a toy – you open yourself up to entirely new waves of pleasure. 

Prioritize Foreplay 

The saying “don’t run before you can walk” could not be more applicable here. When it comes to initiating your self-care, there are many ways to get in the mood. Whether it be putting on some silky pjs, indulging in your fave porn stint, or lighting some scented candles – take the time to put that groundwork in. Not only will the buildup to orgasm be more pleasurable, approaching self-gratification at a measured pace will enable you to fully explore your body, optimizing satisfaction.  

While everyone’s experience with squirting will vary - to be fully aroused, you must be in a relaxed state. Whether you’re going at it alone or experimenting with your partner – letting go of mundane day-to-day problems, and embracing the moment is key.  

Since time began, female sexuality has been suppressed, dismissed, and misinterpreted. While the conversation has opened up post-lockdown, it’s clear that more needs to be done to normalize this perfectly healthy sexual act.  

It’s time to rewrite the cultural script for squirting and reap the benefits – not the shame.