5 Myths You Need To Forget About Squirting
Turn the fountain on.
Oh, the female squirt — so misunderstood! Shrouded in mystery, squirting has fascinated us for millennia. From Taoist texts in 4th Century China to the Kama Sutra, people have long been pondering this elusive and taboo phenomenon.
But today, we can’t seem to get enough of it. A recent PornHub survey reveals that porn featuring squirting has grown in popularity in recent years. Not only that, but it seems to be the preferred category of women, with women 44% more likely to search for squirting videos compared to men.
But this wet and wild territory is surrounded by misinformation and downright ridiculous myths. Here are the 5 things you need to forget when it comes to squirting. It’s time to get the facts straight!
1. Squirting Doesn’t Exist
“Women can squirt — yeah, right! It’s just pee or faked.”
A female squirting orgasm has some pretty tangible evidence to support its existence. You know, the literal gushing of fluid, the wet bed sheets, not to mention the fact that many women speak candidly about their experience of squirting. But even that will never stop the naysayers. Whether they think that women who squirt are just peeing themselves or that they have a little water gun hidden behind the pillow, people are quick to dismiss this female phenomenon. So first things first: squirting is real. End of.
So what is squirting? A female squirt occurs when liquid spurts out from the urethra during, before or after an orgasm. If we’re being picky though, squirting is not the same as female ejaculation. Female ejaculation is more milky and viscous in colour and consistency and there’s typically less of it. Ranging anywhere between a couple of drops to two full cups of fluid, squirts vary from person-to-person. It may not sound sexy, but, believe us, it’s awesome!
2. Only Some Women Can Squirt
“Only women in porn and really lucky women can squirt.”
Hands up — who’s squirted before? Or who’s tried and tried but never quite been able to get there? Okay, so not every woman has had a squirting orgasm. In fact, just one in three women say they’ve experienced it. But science is science, and it turns out every woman has the physical ability to squirt — yes, even you! It’s just a case of pushing the right buttons.
Some women squirt every time they orgasm, some squirt without orgasm and others orgasm without squirting. Sometimes you do and sometimes you don’t. Every woman is different and every sexual encounter is different. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach when it comes to having an orgasm or learning to squirt. And that’s totally fine. The most important thing is not to put pressure on yourself or get disheartened if you don’t squirt — just make sure you enjoy the ride.
3. Squirting Is Peeing… Except, It Isn’t
“I think I just pissed myself…” (runs to the bathroom in tears)
No myth about squirting is quite as damaging as this one. Many women can’t let go and give in to the squirt because they’re terrified of peeing themselves. Squirting is sexy, but pee? Not so much. And we get it, nothing quite ruins a sexy moment like sporadic incontinence. But we’re here to tell you that squirting is not the same as peeing — trust us. It’s simple. If you’ve ever squirted or seen a person squirt, it looks, smells and tastes completely different from pee. So relax and chill out.
Part of the reason this myth is so pervasive is because, when women are about to squirt, they often experience the sensation of needing to pee. When you’re seriously aroused, the tissue around your urethra is flooded with blood, which presses against your bladder, making you feel like you need to pee. But (and this is important), it doesn’t mean you’re actually going to pee yourself. The simple solution? Go to the toilet before getting down and dirty. With an empty bladder, you can be confident that you’re squirting and definitely not peeing. And you know what, even if you do pee yourself, who cares? if you’re caught up in the moment and giving your significant other the time of their life, they won’t care either.
4. You Can’t Learn to Squirt
“My boyfriend tried to make me squirt once — he couldn’t, so I know I can’t.”
Squirting is just another way of expressing pleasure and pleasure is something that can be learnt. But what’s the best way to do this? Take the time to experiment with your own body. It’s the best kind of homework. Set aside some time one night, light some candles, play some sensual music and get in the mood, then go to town on yourself. Although your partner might have fantasies of rocking your body and inducing a mind-blowing orgasm, solo sessions are the best way to get to know your body. And once you know what works for you, you can teach your partner too.
When trying to squirt, focus on your G-spot. Located close to the front of the vaginal wall and with a distinctive spongy texture, the G-spot is the key to squirting. To find it, curve a couple of fingers into a claw and make a come-hither motion. When you feel a ridge, you’ll know you’re in the right place. To really take the pleasure to the next level, bring in your favourite sex toys. There are loads of toys out there designed to stimulate that elusive sweet spot and the best also include a clit stimulator for ultimate pleasure. What are you waiting for?
5. Squirting Is the Only Way to Feel Pleasure
“A squirting orgasm is the ultimate measure of pleasure.”
Squirting is not the only way women experience pleasure — it’s just one of them. Fake orgasms have got men worried: “was it real? How do I know she actually came?” That’s the problem with female orgasms — they’re misunderstood and easy to fake. Squirting, on the other hand, is more easily measurable — a jet of liquid? “Yes! She came” This accounts for the countless articles in men’s magazines showing men ‘how to make your girl squirt’. But don’t let that fool you — a squirting orgasm is just another kind of orgasm. There’s no better or worse way to come. If you’re satisfied and your partner’s satisfied, that’s all you need to worry about.
When you pressure yourself to squirt, you’re a million times less likely to be able to do it. Female orgasms are just as much mental as they are physical. If you want to squirt, being in a good mental space is so important. How are you going to let go and squirt if you can’t even get out of your own head? Don’t overthink it. Patience, practice and taking time to enjoy the journey is all you need to get squirting!
And that’s it. Squirting is real, it’s not pee and it’s a totally incredible experience that every woman can enjoy. So go and have fun, experiment and let the good times flow (literally!)
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