I Can't Stop Queefing!

Dear Dr. Fizzy,

Every time I have sex with my boyfriend, I queef! I’m so embarrassed I can’t stand it any longer! It’s happened with other guys but never as much as this and it’s so awkward! Am I doing something wrong or is there any way to stop it?

From, 

Embarrassed in bed (19)

Dear Embarrassed In Bed, 

You’re not doing a thing wrong – except worrying about it! Queefing is totally normal and the hotter and harder you play, the more likely it is to happen! There is an undignified stigma about women who queef and this is largely due to a lack of information, about what a queef actually is. Firstly, it is definitely not a fart out of your vagina, nor is it even air coming from inside your body. It is simply air from outside that has got into your vajay-jay and is being pushed back out. It has nowhere else to go so it has to come back out. So that’s great to know you have a normal body and are just like every other girl right? Queefing doesn’t harm you in any way, but it can be embarrassing, annoying or hilariously funny depending on your sense of humor! Queefing doesn’t just happen during sex, it can happen whilst swimming, doing yoga or even taking a bath, it’s just physics. That being said, if it really bothers you, there are some things you can do, to decrease your chances of queefing in bed. 

Avoid positions that involve you being bent over or upside down. Queef-tastic positions include doggy-style and pile driver, whilst cowgirl and missionary are fairly safe and should leave you queef free! If those are your favorite positions and you don’t want to give them up, try having sex in slow mo. It won’t allow as much air to get inside and often makes sex much more intense.

More grind less bump. Try having your boyfriend perform a grinding motion as opposed to long in and out strokes which increases the chances of incoming air. Also shorter strokes can help but that’s often not as much fun! Try asking your man to finger you between positions too, often this will let the air out more subtly before it turns into a full blown queef. 

Unfortunately, you might not be able to prevent a queef every time, but that’s ok because in reality, sex isn’t like a porn movie. There are ugly noises and awkward movements, bodily fluids and wet sheets, but if you’re close enough to your guy to have sex with him, you should be prepared to just laugh these things off. Of course on the other hand, if you don’t know the guy that well and he leaves a man shaped hole in your door, he’s probably not worth it anyway! 

If you’re having sex in a quiet room, try adding a little background noise, some music, porn, even a fan will do, just to disguise the noise slightly and keep the motion going without feeling like you have to laugh or make a comment. Whichever way you decide to create some extra static, if you moan his name every time it happens, he’s guaranteed to remember the moan and not the queef! Remember, there aren’t girls who queef and those who don’t (this isn’t squirting we’re talking about!) it happens to everyone, which means your boyfriend has probably come across it before. 

Lastly, don’t forget, although queefing is perfectly normal, they aren’t supposed to smell and if they do, this can be a symptom of a problem, so definitely consult your doctor. 

Love,

Dr. Fizzy