The Dos And Don’ts Of Dating At College
Our go-to-guide for navigating your love life at uni.
Going to college is one of the most exciting times in your life. There will never be a time when you get to meet so many new people, from all different walks of life – it really is like being a kid in a sweet shop. But, with so many millennials to choose from, it can be overwhelming.
There is an innate pressure on young people to meet “the one” when they go to uni – especially if all your peers are in relationships and you’re feeling like you need to play catch up. We’re here to outline the dos and don’t’s of dating at uni – whether you’re embracing single life or loved up with your childhood sweetheart - we’ve got you covered.
Put Yourself Out There
Uni is your time to shine – so, be open-minded. Don’t be afraid to talk to people that you wouldn’t normally meet. However, at the same time, if you go on a date, and you really aren’t feeling it – don’t date someone for the sake of it. If you know they aren’t right for you, then get busy mingling rather than settling.
Remember, Some People Just Want A Hook-Up
If you’re looking for something serious, keep in mind that many people at uni just want a bit of fun. Whether it be a one-nightstand, a friends-with-benefits situation, or a booty call – plenty of boys are not thinking of the long-term when they embark on university life. However, that’s not to say that “Mr Right” isn’t out there – just always remember to keep your wits about you when it comes to managing your expectations.
Don’t Neglect Your Studies
As boring as it sounds, you’re at college to study and getting super loved-up with a guy in Fresher’s week, probably isn’t the best way to go about things. If you meet someone great in the first week, then go for it! However, be mindful that you are at university for you, and you should always put yourself and your future first.
Learning to balance your course with your social life can be a challenge to say the least – give yourself some time to settle in, and you’ll be managing all aspects of your life in no time!
Make Time For Friendships
Even if you’re crazy about someone, don’t start bailing on your friends. You may well want to spend all your time with your new beau, but that doesn’t mean that you should. If you keep dissing your new flat mates to hang out with your S.O, then they will start to resent you.
You’re going to be at college for a few years at least – so, it’s imperative that you focus on building good friendships, particularly during your first few weeks of uni life. If you have solid friends to rely on, then you won’t become anxious if your relationship ends later down the line. Remember, boys will come and go but your girlfriends are a constant!
Things Can Change
Just because you have been with your S.O since you were 16, doesn’t mean that you have to last the test of time through your college years. As you embark on this new chapter, things are bound to change. You’re meeting new people, living in a different environment, and tackling the biggest step of your education so far.
It’s okay if it doesn’t work out with your high-school beau once you get to uni – it simply means that it wasn’t meant to be, and that someone better is waiting round the corner.
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