Understanding Your Relationship And When It's Time To Let Go
Walk away from what isn’t good for you.
Not all relationships last forever, even though we might want them to. Some relationships are never going to work out, and they are there to teach us a lesson that we need to learn. Some relationships are simply there to show us what we don’t want, and others are there to teach us what we do want. However, the important thing about a relationship is that you need to understand it, and that also means understanding when it’s time to let go. If you understand this, you will be able to walk away from what isn’t good for you, right into what is. If you would like to know more about this topic, keep reading down below.
No More Communication
The first thing that we are going to look at is the fact that there might be no more communication in your relationship. If one of you is upset, do you talk to the other? If you’re frustrated, angry, hurt, happy, or when something big happens, do you tell your partner? Do you feel as though you can talk to them about anything? If the answer is no, then something has gone wrong. The foundation of a solid relationship is being able to communicate about anything and everything, if you can’t do that, or one of you simply won’t, then what are you fighting for?
There are some couples who have no idea what is going on in the other's life, and this isn’t a good thing. You need to talk no matter how hard it can be sometimes, or the relationship is doomed to fail either way.
You Love The Memories More
If you are looking at the person in front of you, and you find that you love the memories you two share together more than the actual person, it’s time to let go. This happens a lot because people change, and they are not the person you first met. Sometimes this is for the better and it helps your relationship to grow, you grow together, turn into new people together and find your way together. However, in other cases, you grow apart. You realize that this is not the life that you want, you realize that this is not the person that you want, and you miss the person they used to be.
Nobody is saying that you have to give up your memories simply because you are giving up your relationship. You can treasure them forever, and remember them as the person that you loved with all your heart at one point in your life, making some beautiful memories with them. That doesn’t mean you will love your next partner any less, and it doesn’t mean that you are hung up on your ex.
It’s Turning Toxic
When things start to turn toxic, it’s either talk it out and fix it, or get out of there. You don’t want to be around if things get worse and worse, because this can lead to very bad things. We don’t want to see anyone in a position where they are in a toxic relationship, as these are damaging to each individual as well as those that are around you. Hurling accusations at each other, constantly having heated arguments about small things, throwing things at each other and so on are all signs of a toxic relationship. As well as this there is manipulation, blackmail and other things like this. When the signs of this start, it’s time to get out. It’s likely not going to get any better, and you both deserve better.
Sometimes two people aren’t bad people, they are just bad together and it brings out the ugly side of each person. This is not a relationship that is going anywhere, and it’s not worth having if it’s dangerous in any way. If there is only one toxic person in the relationship and they are not allowing you to leave, then you need to either get help from someone you know or an organization that deals with this, and get help with your divorce if you are married.
Nobody Is Trying
When nobody is trying to make the relationship work, or when it is all one sided, it’s never going to have a happy ending. One or both of you aren’t in love anymore, and that means the relationship needs to be let go. You deserve better than to be with someone you don’t love or who doesn’t love you, which is exactly what is happening here. If it’s not worth putting the effort into, it’s not worth having at all. It might be a difficult thing to do, leave a relationship like this, especially if you are totally in love with the person, but it’s what is best for you. You cannot live your life in a relationship with someone who doesn’t see you as worth it enough to try. This could lead to mental health problems such as depression, anxiety, feelings of not feeling good enough and others.
A Breakdown In Trust
The final thing that we are going to look at is a breakdown in trust. If you feel like you need to go through your partner’s phone, or question where they are when they tell you something, what are you doing in this relationship? There is clearly no trust between you and you cannot live your life second guessing what your partner is telling you. When the trust is gone, it either needs to be rebuilt, or the relationship needs to end. Some people are not capable of rebuilding trust, and that’s fine, you don’t have to, but you can’t stay in this relationship either.
We hope that you have found this article helpful, and now see some of the things that you need to notice when it comes to understanding your relationship and when it’s time to let go. Unfortunately, sometimes we have to let these kinds of things go to find the life that was meant for us, even if we thought that it would last forever. We wish you the very best of luck, and hope that you find your happiness.
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