How Should Lesbians Use Sex Toys To Flirt?

A guide to pleasure.

POSTED BY ANNA GRAHAM

Sex toys are honestly such a great invention—they’re here for everyone, no matter their gender or orientation. These days, more and more brands are focusing on making toys that are inclusive, especially for the LGBTQ+ community. There’s a growing range of toys designed by women, specifically with lesbian couples in mind. Today, let’s dive into some fun ways lesbians can use sex toys to add a little extra spark!

Understanding Consent for Sex Toys

If you're going to use sex toys with your partner, here are some tips you should know.

Any unsolicited and unapproved action may be offensive, even between lovers. So remember, when you want to share your toys with your partner, you have to ask. This should be the case every time. One consent does not mean the same in the future. Agreeing to use this toy does not mean agreeing to use another toy. Different sex toys bring different feelings. Some people like the feeling of insertion while others don't. The purpose of using sex toys should be to make both people feel comfortable rather than one person compromising with the other.

Choosing the Right Sex Toy

Whether you use it alone or with a partner, it's important to choose sex toys that are safe for the body, especially when it comes to toys that enter the body. Here are some things to keep in mind:

  • The best materials for sex toys should be non-toxic and stable high-quality materials such as silicone or glass and ABS plastic. Any sex toys containing phthalates are harmful. They are usually jelly-made sex toys that contain these chemicals and they smell pungent.
  • Choose toys that are ergonomically designed to minimize discomfort during use. Any toy that is too big or too small can lead to potential health problems.
  • Consider the type of stimulation you and your partner like. Some insertable toys are designed to stimulate your G-spot, which is internal stimulation, while some clitoral vibrators or rose clit suckers target the clitoris externally.

Which sex toys are suitable for queer people?

Dildos of all shapes and sizes

First of all, dildos are the first toys you should consider, because you both have vaginas and G-spots. Of course, if you like anal sex, the right-size dildo will still work. But wait... dildos don't just come in different sizes, they also come in many shapes, including realistic dildos, animal dildos, alien dildos and all kinds of fantasy dildos. Some of them may not look like dildos at all.

Strap-on dildos for beginners

Wearable dildos can make play between you and your partner more fun and exciting. These dildos can be worn like underwear, giving you the appearance of having a dick. Some usually have straps that go around your waist and legs to keep it in place. Make sure the straps are comfortable when choosing the right one.

Various clit suckers

The clit sucker has been very popular in recent years and is very effective for many people. It does not stimulate the clitoris directly like ordinary vibrators, but uses a sucking mouth to suck around the clitoris, which will emit air pulses to stimulate the clitoris. These pulses can penetrate the surface of the skin and reach the nerve endings of the clitoris. Rose toy, Satisfyer pro2 and Sona 2 Cruise are all excellent works of this type of clitoral toys.

Incorporate Sex Toys into Your Solo or Co-op Play

Whether you're roaming solo or teaming up with a partner, using sex toys in the bedroom can benefit both of you. You can play with one toy together or each of you can hold a toy in your hands and play with it at the same time. I've compiled some of our favorite tips on how to use sex toys with a partner.

  • If you like vibrators, I recommend a finger vibrator. It is very sexy to use your fingers to bring your partner to orgasm. You can start with a finger vibrator by rubbing circles around her vulva and then gradually move towards her clitoris. Insert one or two fingers into her vagina for extra stimulation.
  • Using a dildo during oral sex can double her pleasure. Inserting the dildo into her vagina while licking her clitoris with your tongue will double the stimulation and bring her to orgasm quickly.
  • With double-ended sex toys, they allow two people to use them at the same time, and the visual impact feels good when you use sex toys face-to-face to masturbate.
  • You can also wear a wearable dildo and have real sex like a man and a woman.
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