How To Add Some Fifty Shades Moves Into Your Sex Life
Tie Me Up, Tie Me Down Darling…
You have to admit, there is definitely something sexy about letting someone else take control. Adding a few Fifty Shades moves into the bedroom doesn’t mean you are now officially into BDSM and must join the club, it’s just a little experimentation to spice things up. It’s not about allowing your partner to whip the shit out of you, nor is it even about causing pain in the slightest (that’s for another topic!) but it is about trust and teasing and feeling a little brazen! But there are a million questions when considering upping the ante Fifty Shades style, like “How?” “When?” and “Am I going to have to sign a contract like Ana?!”
No, you don’t have to sign a contract and nor do we recommend it (it’s a relationship not an apartment rental.) But the how’s and when’s are up for grabs. Here’s five ways you can introduce a little kink into your sex life – tonight!
Tie Each other Up
Tying each other up by the hands or the feet can be very sensual. Fifty shades may have used cable ties but if that seems a little too daunting, try something a little softer like a scarf or an actual tie. It doesn’t have to be so tight that you can’t move or get out of it, just knowing you’re not supposed to move will be enough. Not being able to touch the person giving you pleasure is rather erotic and can make things very interesting indeed!
If you’ve ever covered your face while you’re receiving oral, a blindfold could be just what you’re looking for. It allows your brain to completely relax, to shut down for a while and just enjoy what you’re receiving. Forget about how much time has passed and definitely don’t be concerned with what’s going to happen next – feeling a little vulnerable is all part of the fun!
Non Conformist Sex Toys
We all know what to do with a vibrator but why not try introducing a new sex toy that neither of you have had experience with before. Taking inspiration from the trilogy, you could experiment with paddles, feathers, love eggs or even butt plugs. Allow it to be just that, experimental. You may love it, you may think it’s just not for you but trying something new to both of you is sure to be an adventure. If you’re playing around with toys, don’t forget to use lots of lube and only go as far as is pleasurable.
Toucha Toucha Toucha Touch Me
Are you open about masturbation in your relationship? When was the last time you masturbated in front of your partner? Allowing them to see you touch yourself is not only educational for the other person but it will also drive them wild not being able to touch you themselves. Send your lover over the edge by giving them a good view and don’t be afraid to put on a bit of a show if you’re that way inclined!
Spanking is great because you can take it to whichever level you’re comfortable with. It could be a gentle tap on the ass followed by a “You’ve been very naughty” or it could be a little harder spank that says “Yes, right there baby.” It could be a spank of the hand, the blindfold from earlier or even a suede flogger type piece of equipment. Try this move in doggy style for the most natural flow or allow him to bend you over his knee for a little role play action.
Remember, if you’re going to try any of this out, there’s got to be trust in the relationship. There’s no point in getting yourself into a vulnerable position and then realizing this will never work for you because you don’t trust what is going to happen next. Feel free to establish a safe word or just go with good old STOP and NO (no means no folks – in every situation.) Finally, when you try something new, be prepared for it to go belly up. We aren’t in a movie so sometimes transitioning into what you want to try can be awkward, funny and often just a mood killer. Don’t be put off, just laugh and go with it, hardly anyone gets it right the first time!