Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco: A Love Story Built on Trust, Vulnerability & Fate

Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco’s relationship didn’t start with fireworks; it was slow, unexpected, and built on trust. The couple recently sat down with Jay Shetty on his ‘On Purpose’ podcast, where they opened up about how they went from collaborators to soulmates. Their first time hanging out wasn’t romantic at all. In fact, Selena, known for being protective of herself, kept her distance afterward. Benny even thought she didn’t like him after their next encounter with mutual friends. It wasn’t until they worked together on her song ‘Single Soon’ that their dynamic shifted. Benny took a chance and texted her, and to his surprise, Selena responded. Over time, they started exchanging funny messages, with Selena even sending him what she called “ugly photos” of herself. What Benny didn’t realize at the time is that she already liked him.

Their relationship took a step forward when Benny invited Selena to his friend’s birthday party. She went to his house beforehand, thinking it was a date. Benny, on the other hand, had no idea. But after that night, they started spending more time together. Benny, who had made a list with his therapist of what he wanted in a partner, quickly realized that Selena checked every box, especially kindness, compassion, and being an all-around genuine person.

For Selena, letting her guard down wasn’t easy. She admitted that what made her open up was how Benny saw her for who she really was, not as a celebrity, but simply as Selena. “He knows when I’m spiraling, and he talks me through it,” she shared, explaining that their connection felt natural, and over time, she felt completely comfortable with him.

With their busy schedules, Selena and Benny had to make long-distance work, and for Selena, trust was everything. While she didn’t need constant communication, she did want to hear from Benny at least once a day to feel connected. Benny understood her need for reassurance, saying, “If she has a doubt, even if it’s just a dream, I want her to tell me. I’ll always be there to talk her through it.” He also shared some advice: “Men don’t always listen when women tell them exactly what they need. But if you really care, you’ll pay attention to the little things that make them feel safe.”Despite some early moments of hesitation, their trust only grew stronger. Benny said that while Selena was nervous about fully opening up, she was the one who said “I love you” first, something he still gushes about. 

Selena and Benny kept their relationship under wraps for months before going public. As one of the most famous women in the world, Selena’s love life is constantly scrutinized, but Benny didn’t care about the outside noise. “Hate is free,” he said, explaining that in today’s world, people seek validation but also love tearing others down. He chooses to ignore it and focus on what really matters, his relationship. For Selena, being with Benny has been a grounding experience. She admitted that sometimes, she doesn’t even feel like being herself due to outside pressure, but she tries to remain positive. What makes her feel safe? Knowing that Benny is there for her on both good and bad days, without judgment.

The couple agreed on one thing: showing love and being kind should be celebrated, not shamed. Benny encouraged men to express their emotions more freely, while Selena reflected on how people often settle for less because they want what’s "cool" instead of what they actually deserve.

As for their relationship now? Benny wakes up every day asking himself, “How can I make Selena’s day better?” And she does the same for him. With strong boundaries, mutual respect, and an unbreakable bond, their love story proves that sometimes, fate just has a way of bringing two people together.