How To Know When It’s Time To Let Go
Is it time to cut ties yet?
No matter if it’s a friend, a boyfriend or someone else you deeply care about, letting go doesn’t come naturally to most of us, especially when that person has been around for a long time. But sometimes, it’s unfortunately an inevitable event waiting to happen. The question is, when can a relationship / friendship be saved? And when is it time to cut the ties?
The bad news is (and you probably already know that): there’s no magic recipe or guide for living and leading healthy relations. Every friendship and every relationship are unique and special in their own way. And if you decide to cut ties, it’ll probably be a hurtful and upsetting event, there’s no doubt about that. But sometimes, people just grow apart, no matter how much we wish it wasn’t the case. You can love someone and still decide not to be directly involved in their life anymore.
So, here’s five rules that might indicate that it’s time to call it a day and move on with your life.
Friends and boyfriends are there to enrichen our life and support us being our fabulous selves. Being able to let your guards down, be 100% yourself and feel comfortable doing so, is one of the best indicators that it’s probably worth hanging in there. If you catch yourself filtering through information when speaking to them or putting on a persona that you figure is better suited to the situation / person, you know what you have to do…
The percentage rule
Sometimes it’s hard to differentiate a phase from a constant shift in a relation. Every friendship / relationship has rocky phases, but if you find yourself unhappy and on-edge more than 50% of the time, you might want to reconsider why you’re sticking around.
We’re a strong believer that every relation you have in your life is built on trust. Once that trust is broken or strongly damaged, it can be hard aka impossible to get it back. When you drop a plate, you can try to fix it, but the cracks will still be visible reminders of the time when it was broken. Same goes for relations.
Lack of effort
A friendship needs work, so does a relationship. In order for it to work, both parties need to make some efforts. If you find yourself being the only one who keeps reaching out and asking to meet, chances are you might be the only one who actually still cares about the continuation of the bond.
Regular need for vacay
Sure, we all need a break from our everyday life and relations from time to time, but if you find yourself longing for a break more than enjoying their company, we can probably all agree that something isn’t right, can we?