How Songs Can Soothe Your Broken Heart

Studies have shown that we listen to certain music based on recent experiences. Those with a broken heart tend to choose sad songs. And, according to the research, in some cases the brokenhearted say they prefer to hear a breakup tune rather than talking with a close friend. Song, much like scent, can have such a strong neurological impact on us. In the same way a piece of music can release dopamine and endorphins that make us happy, they can in turn teleport you back to a time and place you are trying to move away from.

So, it’s important to be mindful of what you listen to when you are nursing a broken heart, especially in the initial stages.  It has been proven that listening to music alters your perception of pain and can heighten feelings of control. A simple melody has a direct influence on our neural pathways, as does self-expression. Something simple yet extremely medicinal you can do is to curate your own little heartbreak playlist, choosing pieces of music that empower you. In my own experience, songs can also act as a way to measure wether or not you have recovered from the pain. If you can listen to a piece of music that reminds you of that someone without crumbling, it’s a sure sign you’re over the worst of it. 

No truer words were spoken than those of the wonderful neurologist and physician, Dr Oliver Sacks:

“Music can pierce the heart directly; it needs no mediation. One does not have to know anything about Dido and Aeneas to be moved by her lament for him; anyone who has ever lost someone knows what Dido is expressing. And there is, finally, a deep and mysterious paradox here, for while such music makes one experience pain and grief more intensely, it brings solace and consolation at the same time.”

Heartbreaks are temporary. Sadness is temporary. You will find love again and in the meantime, use the power of music to help guide you through. 
 

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